I want to respond to the elements of satisfaction
discussed by Sarah Jillings. I want to speculate as to what basic desires are fulfilled
by two of the three elements Ms. Jillings distilled from her research.
Essentially, I want to consider WHY these elements have the power to satisfy.
A
person is satisfied when they rise above others’ expectations for their life
I believe that the satisfaction that comes from
acting out of personal conviction irrespective of others’ opinions is a result
of two human wants being satisfied. Call it control or power, people have a
fundamental desire to be autonomous and efficacious. Acting solely for your own
beliefs is an act and thereby a proof of control over oneself, and this
engenders satisfaction. Secondly, people calculate their worth by comparison, how
skillful or successful we are is determined in terms of relativity to other
examples. Therefore, when one acts for one’s own wants rather than another’s
expectations, they re-affirm their own worth to themselves, because they chose
their opinion over another’s: their opinion was relatively better.
A
person is satisfied when they set goals and work towards them with
determination
When a person sets a goal, when they truly render an
objective important in their mind, they imbue said objective with meaning. They
make the objective a mechanism for fulfillment. However, the potential for
great reward or great damage emerges if a person stakes part of their
self-esteem on their achievement of the objective. Working towards the
objective “with determination” validates the worker’s sense that they have the
power to do what they want, or helps convince them of such if they did not
previously believe it: thereby, self-esteem can be uplifted by successfully
approaching the objective. Contrarily, failing to achieve the objective when it
is tied to self-esteem can ruin one’s satisfaction, making one feel powerless.
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